Comments on: In My Hands (#528) http://autism.wordpress.com/2006/12/01/in-my-hands-528/ The Charlie Fisher Story, from June 2005-January 2007; read the rest at autismland.wordpress.com. I now blog at kristinachew.com Mon, 22 Sep 2008 05:38:35 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Embracing Autism: New Book http://autism.wordpress.com/2006/12/01/in-my-hands-528/#comment-1844 Embracing Autism: New Book Mon, 03 Mar 2008 17:30:37 +0000 http://autism.wordpress.com/2006/12/01/in-my-hands-528/#comment-1844 [...] is adapted from two posts I wrote back in December 2006 on my old blog, Autismland, one post being In My Hands and the other, Grass in the [...] [...] is adapted from two posts I wrote back in December 2006 on my old blog, Autismland, one post being In My Hands and the other, Grass in the [...]

]]> By: KCsMommy http://autism.wordpress.com/2006/12/01/in-my-hands-528/#comment-1558 KCsMommy Fri, 01 Dec 2006 23:15:25 +0000 http://autism.wordpress.com/2006/12/01/in-my-hands-528/#comment-1558 Hi Kristina, So sorry about the tough day at the supermarket. I know how tempting the market place can be for our kids, K.C. tries to line things up and pull stuff off the shelves. Maybe Charlie was just having an icky day. He has been quite the awesome shopper guy, going to Dinner, train, movies, so many wonderful things you and Jim have helped Charlie along with! You are an awesome Mommy, I too am learning so so much from you and Charlie. Hi Kristina,

So sorry about the tough day at the supermarket.
I know how tempting the market place can be for our kids, K.C. tries to line things up and pull stuff off the shelves.
Maybe Charlie was just having an icky day.
He has been quite the awesome shopper guy, going to Dinner, train, movies, so many wonderful things you and Jim have helped Charlie along with!
You are an awesome Mommy, I too am learning so so much from you and Charlie.

]]> By: Kristina Chew http://autism.wordpress.com/2006/12/01/in-my-hands-528/#comment-1557 Kristina Chew Fri, 01 Dec 2006 20:10:24 +0000 http://autism.wordpress.com/2006/12/01/in-my-hands-528/#comment-1557 I think I can only stay fairly calm now because it happened too many times before-----some Crisis Management Training helps-----with Charlie now I find myself saying to myself when I see another parent saying things like the mother was to her son, but how do I come across? I also feel a tremendous sympathy with both the child and their parent after the things we have been through. In most cases, what I've seen other parents call their children on in public is for things that are not as---intense, and noisy----as Charlie's. I think I can only stay fairly calm now because it happened too many times before—–some Crisis Management Training helps—–with Charlie now I find myself saying to myself when I see another parent saying things like the mother was to her son, but how do I come across? I also feel a tremendous sympathy with both the child and their parent after the things we have been through. In most cases, what I’ve seen other parents call their children on in public is for things that are not as—intense, and noisy—-as Charlie’s.

]]> By: MommyGuilt http://autism.wordpress.com/2006/12/01/in-my-hands-528/#comment-1556 MommyGuilt Fri, 01 Dec 2006 14:22:18 +0000 http://autism.wordpress.com/2006/12/01/in-my-hands-528/#comment-1556 Kristina - you never cease to wow me with hour calm and order in the face of chaos. Always an inspiration. I had an experience with a parent berating a child and throwing him into his seat for a)not doing anything different from the rest of the kids in his group, and then b)for ultimately not sitting down by the end of the 1-2-3 count. They were seated next to PC and me at one of Girl's game. PC and I had both made the same observations of this boy and concluded that he showed many asperger's traits. So not only were we horrified at the man's behavior in the first place, we were affected by it on an even deeper level. And there was nothing we could do. Kristina – you never cease to wow me with hour calm and order in the face of chaos. Always an inspiration.

I had an experience with a parent berating a child and throwing him into his seat for a)not doing anything different from the rest of the kids in his group, and then b)for ultimately not sitting down by the end of the 1-2-3 count. They were seated next to PC and me at one of Girl’s game. PC and I had both made the same observations of this boy and concluded that he showed many asperger’s traits.

So not only were we horrified at the man’s behavior in the first place, we were affected by it on an even deeper level. And there was nothing we could do.

]]> By: Lisa/Jedi http://autism.wordpress.com/2006/12/01/in-my-hands-528/#comment-1555 Lisa/Jedi Fri, 01 Dec 2006 09:34:41 +0000 http://autism.wordpress.com/2006/12/01/in-my-hands-528/#comment-1555 This post really hit me in the gut. We found a bruise on Brendan's forehead during bathtime last night, the result of head-banging a window at school... Charlie & I were both quite taken aback, since we've been working really hard on helping Brendan to choose his head-banging sites more carefully. We tried to use this as a teaching moment, without scaring him too much (about what could happen if he head-bangs a window again...). I was struck by how your Charlie's episodes are fading & Brendan's are becoming more frequent. I was struck by your calm in the fearful position of having others witness & want to intervene in Charlie's episode in the supermarket. That's a scary scenario... You handled it so gracefully & walked (with broken shoe strap!) out of the store with your shopping & a calm kid & had room for compassion for another family. You are amazing :) I am learning so much from you! This post really hit me in the gut. We found a bruise on Brendan’s forehead during bathtime last night, the result of head-banging a window at school… Charlie & I were both quite taken aback, since we’ve been working really hard on helping Brendan to choose his head-banging sites more carefully. We tried to use this as a teaching moment, without scaring him too much (about what could happen if he head-bangs a window again…). I was struck by how your Charlie’s episodes are fading & Brendan’s are becoming more frequent. I was struck by your calm in the fearful position of having others witness & want to intervene in Charlie’s episode in the supermarket. That’s a scary scenario… You handled it so gracefully & walked (with broken shoe strap!) out of the store with your shopping & a calm kid & had room for compassion for another family. You are amazing :) I am learning so much from you!

]]> By: Janet Bowser http://autism.wordpress.com/2006/12/01/in-my-hands-528/#comment-1554 Janet Bowser Fri, 01 Dec 2006 08:06:48 +0000 http://autism.wordpress.com/2006/12/01/in-my-hands-528/#comment-1554 I feel so bad for the kids with the shrew of the mom berating him over juice, but now I wonder, am I that mom? Sometimes the things that come out of my mouth just kill me. I wish I could be more calm. I feel so bad for the kids with the shrew of the mom berating him over juice, but now I wonder, am I that mom? Sometimes the things that come out of my mouth just kill me. I wish I could be more calm.

]]> By: mothersvox http://autism.wordpress.com/2006/12/01/in-my-hands-528/#comment-1553 mothersvox Fri, 01 Dec 2006 01:28:26 +0000 http://autism.wordpress.com/2006/12/01/in-my-hands-528/#comment-1553 Wow, sorry about the tough day at the supermarket. You continue to awe and amaze with your poise. How do you decide when to impose a consequence like "no sushi" when the icing gets eaten in the store? I am weak on consequences, in part because of my aversion to meltdowns. But I'm not sure this is a service to Sweet M or just to my nerves. Thinking of you guys and hoping the night is filled with peace and repose. Wow, sorry about the tough day at the supermarket. You continue to awe and amaze with your poise.

How do you decide when to impose a consequence like “no sushi” when the icing gets eaten in the store? I am weak on consequences, in part because of my aversion to meltdowns. But I’m not sure this is a service to Sweet M or just to my nerves.

Thinking of you guys and hoping the night is filled with peace and repose.

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