Quite Sociable, If I Don’t Say So Myself

Sushi made by our friend; Charlie's almost empty plate is on the left Yet another shocker post today.

After a full Saturday of walking (x 2), bike riding (x 2), grading (Jim), hauling branches to the town recycling center (Jim), speed grocery shopping (me), we went to have dinner at a friends' house. We'd been to visit these friends back in November. We had predicted that Charlie would prefer to spend most of the visit in the outside environs of our friends' house rather than in the interior; in, that is, the car.


As we pulled up into our friends' driveway, Charlie asked to get out. He walked into the kitchen of their house and opened the refrigerator, and asked to have the main course, homemade sushi.

Charlie sat at the table and ate, first sushi and then—after waiting 5 minutes with the help of a timer and a written schedule—soy vanilla ice cream. He then asked for a walk and out he and Jim went (adding to the day's mileage by a few more). After returning, Charlie asked to use the computer (which was the same sort of laptop as we have), to see some videos and hear some music. He stood and watched while Jim and I talked to our friends. 

By just around 9pm Charlie requested to go to the white car. Jim and I noted that this would be quite fine. I set the timer on my iPhone for 30 minutes; with 11 minutes and 27 seconds to go, we were in the car.

Somewhere on the Garden State Parkway, Charlie said 'bedtime' and it was straight to bed that he (smiling as if pleased at himself) went to upon returning.

Seeing friends at their house (yesterday) and at ours (last Saturday for Charlie's birthday party) two weekends in a row: 

Sounds like the doings of a right social, and socializing, family, with a quite sociable boy.

Charlie on the move, riding his bike on a May Saturday

11 Responses to “Quite Sociable, If I Don’t Say So Myself”
  1. Linda says:

    The light fantastic lives on; Charlie conquered and performed in the spring concert renewing confidence galore. The star shines brightly!

  2. Barbara says:

    Sound like it indeed!

  3. Judy T says:

    Awesome! Success breeds success. I hope it continues!

  4. Louise says:

    Did Charlie actually talk to your friends at all – say “hi,” give them a high-five, etc? It’s a victory that he feels comfortable enough around them to enter their house and rummage around their refrigerator. It’s a HUGE victory for *you* that you are able to visit your friends’ home and he is able to regulate himself.
    At the very least, he has made major advances in his capacity to be aut and about. Maybe you can try Moby’s Lobster Deck in Atlantic Highlands next time you are down the shore. http://www.insiderpages.com/b/15246080473/moby-s-lobster-deck-highlands
    Another suggestion for a place that Charlie might like is the Presby Iris Garden in Montclair – the tall Bearded Irises are in bloom and Charlie would have a great place to walk.

  5. autismvox says:

    Charlie has been saying ‘hi’ and ‘I’m fine’ in response to others greeting him—I’ve noticed him doing this quite a bit. Our friends have a child with ‘special needs’ and the mother is trained in ABA……. of late, I suspect restaurants aren’t quite the right setting! But it’s certainly good to be out.

  6. Niksmom says:

    *grinning from ear to ear*

  7. Jill says:

    That’s HUGE! And the sushi looks so good.

  8. Emily says:

    I love reading posts like this, from any parents of autistic kids…the development just keeps moving along.

  9. Louise says:

    Moby’s is an open-air deck where you order your seafood at a window and eat it outdoors at picnic tables. About the only thing it has in common with a restaurant is that you pay somebody else to cook for you! Plus you get to watch the Highlands Bridge go up and down to permit boat traffic.

  10. Jill says:

    I agree that Moby’s is very good. I grew up in neighboring Rumson but it gets very crowded and noisy sometimes and the wait for food can be long.

  11. autismvox says:

    I think we’ve just become a bit leery about eating out due to, um, the possibility of breakage (of breakable dishes etc.) and the noises and sensory overload of restaurants. Will file it away for when these are less of a concern!

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